I hope you’ll indulge me in a bit of a rant.
We noticed on the website for my son’s hockey league that
the Ontario Minor Hockey Association (OMHA) requires all parents to complete a
Respect In Sport Certification program before their child can be added to a
team. The cost to take the online program is $12, it takes about an hour to
complete, and needs to be taken only once, by at least one parent or
guardian. The deadline is November 1,
baffling since the season, at that point, would be one month old, but that is
not the root of my concern. A quick calculation of $12 multiplied by the number
of players registered with the OMHA also makes me wonder if this program won’t
be a profit centre for the association but, again, this is not the reason for
my rant.
And before I go any further, I want to be clear about
something. We have a problem with the
way too many parents behave at their children’s games, practices, and other
events. I don’t know if a lack of “Respect” completely covers this enormous
issue, but something does need to be done to curb or remove the inappropriate
behavior that, for too many families, has ruined the game for our sons and
daughters.
I just don’t know if this program, admittedly one I haven’t even
looked at, will make a difference.
Here’s my problem. The overwhelming number of hockey
parents, and I presume this is consistent across all other sports played in
Ontario, already understand the reason we have our kids in sports. We already
understand what is acceptable behavior (and what’s not) when we attend our
children’s’ games.
We understand that coaches are volunteers and, in almost all
cases, are doing the best that they can to make the game fun and to teach the
skills that our children need to improve. We know that referees are human
beings, and they too are doing the best they can on any given night. If we’ve
ever put on the striped shirt ourselves, we also know it’s a much tougher job
than it appears to be from the stands. We know that our child might be great on
the ice, they might be mediocre, they might really struggle, and we know that
all of it is OK. We know that, for some of the kids, they enjoy their time on
the ice just as much as they do throwing tape balls at each other in the
dressing room. They enjoy backwards circles, carrying a puck, as much as
chasing their coach around the ice, trying to squirt her with their water
bottles. They get as much pleasure out of scoring a goal as they do getting the
surprise birthday party invitation from the child they only know by a first
name, and possibly their uniform number. We know that even after games that
didn’t go how we wanted to, sometimes the only thing ours sons and daughters remember
is sharing an order of fries with their mom or dad.
We know that it’s never OK to scream at a child, or anyone
else, and if our excitement gets the better of us, it should only be to tell
them how much we enjoy watching them on the ice. We know that our child is
doing the best that they can, on any given day and, for that reason, we have a
reason to celebrate every single time they hit the ice.
Somehow I doubt that anything in this one-hour online
program is going to teach me anything I don’t already know. And here’s the worst part. The parents who
don’t get it, the ones who ruin the game for everyone, there’s almost no chance
that twelve bucks and one hour spent at their computer is ever going to change
the way they behave.
And that’s a shame.
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